Your PacePsychotherapyBook a free consult
A trail cresting a rise where the land opens onto rolling golden hills

Specialty

Transitions, grief & identity

Whether untangling a crisis of identity, mourning significant life changes or loss, or weighing impossible decisions—therapy that gives you ground to stand on.

Leave or stay. Take the job or keep the life. Move closer to family or finally build something of your own. Come out, or don't, or not yet. The hardest decisions are rarely between right and wrong, they're between two things you really want and cannot both have.

People facing identity shifts, grief reactions, or major turning points get plenty of advice and very little space. What you usually need is an unhurried hour each week with someone not invested in a particular answer—where anger, ambivalence, sadness, and self-discovery can be explored at your own pace.

Walking suits this work strangely well. Forward motion, a route with some turns in it, no clock on the wall. Over a few sessions the shape of the decision becomes clearer, along with what has actually been holding it in place, often fear about who you'd become, or a loyalty you never agreed to out loud.

Still water at golden hour, ringed by oaks in the East Bay hills

Sessions happen on public trails and paths. Nothing clinical, nothing performative , just two people walking and talking.

What it tends to look like

Familiar? None of it is a diagnosis.

  • Loops

    You've made the pros and cons list four times and nothing settles.

  • Advice

    Everyone has an opinion, and none of it touches the real question.

  • Time

    Not deciding has quietly become the decision.

  • Identity

    The choice is really about who you are allowed to be.

How we work with it

No protocol imposed from the outside.

  1. 01Letting ambivalence be fully spoken instead of prematurely resolved
  2. 02Motivational Interviewing to surface what you actually want, not what you should want
  3. 03Naming the loyalties and old rules holding the decision in place
  4. 04Making a choice you can live inside, then working out how to carry it

Questions

Before you get in touch

Will you tell me what to do?

No. I'll help you hear yourself clearly enough to know what you want, and tell you directly if I think you're avoiding something.

What if I make the decision in three sessions?

Then we talk about whether to stop, or whether there's something underneath worth staying for. Either is a fine outcome.

Do you work with identity and coming-out questions?

Yes, at your pace, with no assumption about where you'll land.

Other things I work with